“To lead others, you must first lead yourself.”
-John C. Maxwell
At what age do you want to start empowering your child to start leading? If you believe the above quote to be true, then you see the value of starting off life with opportunities for them to lead themselves. Leadership is a learned skill, and the best news is that everyone is capable of learning to lead. Make sure your children have the opportunity to practice leadership every single day in their home, school, sports, and everywhere in between. It is never too early to start this by modeling and giving them opportunities.
“Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.”
- John F. Kennedy
I like to equate a child’s life to that of the Chinese bamboo tree. For five years, the bamboo farmer diligently waters, fertilizes, and weeds what looks to be barren ground. Never once missing a time to water, fertilize, and weed the plant, the farmer toils on day after day. On the fifth year, a sprout appears, and in six short weeks it will grow 90 feet tall. It will be strong and supple, capable of withstanding extreme wind and climate changes. The tensile strength of a planted bamboo cable is as strong as or stronger than a steel cable of the same size. What water, fertilizer, and weeding are you using every single day from their conception?
“Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.”
-Warren Bennis
Raise your child to bend but not to break. Be flexible yet firmly rooted. Have you wondered what that bamboo seed was doing for those five years before the first green shoot appeared? It was building its base of support deep and wide. From the onset of their birth, you should be modeling the skills and beliefs you want developed in your children. Be Humankind, or think of it as being a Kind Human. Realize that in order to grow and lead, they must value others as well as themselves. They must believe that their foundation is strong and can withstand failures and setbacks and will be even stronger because of them. You and they must understand the importance of living this quote. It is never too early for them to see you modeling leadership skills. What foundation are you building so they may stand strong and tall?
“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way.”
-John C. Maxwell
Teach them to be careful not to underestimate others or themselves based on perceptions of what is weak or strong. Like the bamboo tree, they must stand tall, believe in their own strengths, and allow others to build and develop theirs as well. Remind them that no matter where they find themselves today, they have tremendous capabilities to grow and develop. Life is a journey they must experience within themselves and then share it with others. There will be times when they are making progress and not be able to see it. During these times are when the greatest growth and personal development may be taking place. How fast or how slow is not our main concern, only that we’re moving forward and planting seeds for others’ growth.
We all have a Chinese bamboo tree inside of us, just waiting to break through. So keep watering, feeding, and believing, and you too will see the strength of the leadership grow in your child through all their stages of life.
THEY MUST SEE YOU MODELING:
• Setting a Good Example Balance Between Work, Play, and Family
• Encourage Teamwork - Build a Circle of Influence
• Emphasize Perseverance – Every Challenge is an Opportunity to Learn and Grow
• Develop Negotiating Skills
• Opportunities for Making Decisions (Producing Solutions – Not Problems)
• Seek Opportunities to Speak for Themselves
• Encourage Work Ethics They Initiate
• Development of Project Planning
• Read Read Read *Optimistic Thinking
REMEMBER
Today’s children are tomorrow’s leaders, especially if those children have parents and adults who are not afraid of the challenge of leading.
OPPORTUNITY
Do you want to have the opportunity for your children to learn leadership firsthand, or would you like to get all the information so you can look it over and decide? I also have classes with the children first, then parents, and the last stage is to add the family as a whole.
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